Written by editors on 11/3/2010 12:56 PM | COMMENTS (14)

A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog post about how my weight expectations have changed as I’ve aged. And it got me thinking…were my expectations too low when I was 20? Or was I right on target for that time of my life?

Because when I look back at photos from college, I realize how amazing my body was. I was super lean and fit - yet I had no confidence in myself or my appearance. I thought I was, gulp, fat. Fashion magazines made me doubt the image I saw in the mirror. Not to mention a slew of sorority sisters who barely seemed to eat.

Twenty years ago, I was a good 10 to 15 pounds lighter than I am now. Yet when I walk out to the pool to swim laps today, I possess a confidence and appreciation for my body that I never had back then.

I wish I could turn back the clock and shake that 20-year-old for thinking she was overweight or out of shape, or not what the fashion world thought she should be. Because what a waste of time with all of that self-doubt.

But moving nieces are in their mid-teens and I am trying to teach them to love themselves and focus on just being healthy. They are at the age where impressions are like a stamp forever engraved in their minds and I can only hope that they see themselves for the true beauties that they are.

Leslie Fink, MS, RD

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  • Post Image jodiva26 (jodi)

    11/3/2010 1:59 PM
    I appreciated your comments. I also have had "leaner" times---pre-kids mainly. But I've never been in better shape as I am right now, & (mostly) healthy eating habits to complement. I have greater body confidence now than I had 15 years ago, even though age, babies, etc...takes a toll. At some point, we all have to own up to who we are & what we look like. Since I'm not going to be morphing into Jennifer Aniston anytime soon, I just have to love who I am right now:)

  • Post Image justgina4u

    11/4/2010 11:57 PM
    Instilling a strong sense of self-esteem in your nieces is the best gift you could ever give them. I was an overweight child, teen, and adult and still work on increasing my self esteem. Unfortunately, my weight was tied to self-esteem and had no one to encourage me otherwise.

  • Post Image srj1963 (sarah)

    11/4/2010 11:25 AM
    Yeah Hooray and I think THIS is why there is such a broad range in possible goals for any height-so we can find the one that suits US and realize there is no ONE perfect number but a range of perfect options.

  • Post Image kehoo1 (karen)

    11/3/2010 3:38 PM
    I see my 12 year old trying to develop body image issues...she is 5'4 and 103 pounds and has the audacity to "cut back". She is beautiful but sometimes I have to encourage her to see herself for real and not let the magazine image overshadow her thoughts....

  • Post Image newme@35n2011

    11/6/2010 5:53 PM
    Without good self image a great body means nothing. Keep encouraging your neices to love who they are. I must do the same for my neices and daughter.

  • Post Image 1fatjak

    11/7/2010 9:34 AM
    This is so true, I have never been satisfied with myself even when I was really thin in my 20s. I am 44 and its time I start appreciating myself for the person I am.

  • Post Image eshnick2

    11/7/2010 1:22 PM
    It's amazing how, especially as women, we learn to doubt ourselves and to incorporate negative self-talk about our bodies starting usually around the teen years. Too often the media, friends and even family encourage us to ridicule ourselves and to compare what we don't have or have too much of (weight wise) to other females. This is something we must work to overcome for ourselves, the sake of our children and their children. Thank you for your blog post!

  • Post Image ~phyllis~

    11/3/2010 1:55 PM
    I agree with you completely!

  • Post Image twmthistime

    11/13/2010 4:24 PM
    I've told my daughters this same thing because I realized it myself. I actually think that thinking that could lead to behaviors that make you actually fat!

  • Post Image bklynborn

    11/11/2010 1:48 PM
    This is a beautiful picture and a fabulous blog.

  • Post Image jacquelyn wilkerson

    11/10/2010 9:27 PM
    Wow! Your story sounds so familiar! I was small, skinny and cute when I was in my twenties and I had no idea.. low self esteem. Now, even though I am much heavier and working hard at losing the weight, I have much more confidence than my younger self ever did.

  • Post Image granmama9

    11/23/2010 9:21 AM
    I so agree!

  • Post Image rosieriveter85

    11/30/2010 12:57 AM
    I was the exact same way. If I think about it I have been trying to loose weight since I was 12 and weighed 110lbs, from then until I was 19 I was always just trying to loose 5 lbs but during those attempts I yo-yo dieted until I gained 30lbs and am now borderline overweight. Now, I wanna learn once and for all how to loose weight and be healthy!

  • Post Image brendairvin1

    12/13/2010 1:00 PM
    I look back and I was amazing looking but my confidence had been so shattered from an abusive relationship , now that I m older and realize what potential I had ,I am ashamed that I allowed someone else to give me a false image of myself, love yourself first , no matter what size and its easier to be good to yourself, I applaud you for teaching this to a younger and hopefully wiser generation


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