Why can’t my DH take better care of himself?!

Written by weightwatchers.com editors on 2/9/2011 5:09 PM | COMMENTS (20)

He skips breakfast. He waits until noon to eat lunch – at which point he’s usually pretty crabby. (And he wonders why I don’t call him all morning to say hello!)

He doesn’t eat fruit. He’d be satisfied with steak or chicken and roasted potatoes or rice for dinner…wouldn’t notice if there wasn’t a vegetable on his plate.

He can’t eat salad with dinner if he’s had some salad for lunch. And let’s not forget that he can’t swallow raw tomatoes but he can down salsa and tomato sauce without a problem.

I always tell him that I have three children; I don’t want a fourth kid. Last week I told him (okay, fine, I lectured him) that he needs to start taking better care of himself because my plate is already full.

To give him a nice “send-off to adulthood” I put five clementines in his work bag about a week ago.

I did not think he’d eat them. Needless to say I was shocked when I got his email this morning:

Subject: I need more

Email: I finally finished the clementines you sent with me to work last week. I am ready for more.

I couldn’t be more proud! ;)

But do I really need to go buy him some more clementines and put them in his work bag again? Or will he man up, decide it’s helpful to snack between meals and go buy his own clementines from the fruit stand right outside his office building?

Hey, a girl can dream, can't she!?

Leslie Fink, MS, RD

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  • Post Image britoni

    2/14/2011 7:13 AM
    My husband is always asking me if he's "allowed" to eat something. I used to say that it was hard enough to police my own eating, that I couldn't watch out for him too. Now I've shortened that to, "I'm not the diet police". The other day we were at a restaurant and two police men were there eating. One of them was telling the other one very loudly that his lunch was unhealthy. I nudged my husband and said, "Look honey, it's the diet police."

  • Post Image rokeeffe13

    2/21/2011 1:56 PM
    My husband is very supportive. However, if I started referring to him as my "DH" probably not so much. Designated Hitter? I guess we are a National League team.

  • Post Image mikrah

    2/18/2011 7:59 PM
    I joined Weight Watchers today and I'm getting to know everything about the PointsPlus program. It has an activity tracker, food tracker, weight tracker, recipes and everything provided to lose weight and keep it off. I think this is going to works for me like it always has for others throughout the years.

  • Post Image becca80

    2/17/2011 2:43 PM
    I finally got my DH to join ww with me. Explained the site, points, etc. Tried to help him see (aka nagged) he needed to take ownership of his own journey. When we put in his age, weight, etc he gets 62 pts on the new pp plan. 62 pts...who can eat that much??? It is so many pts, he doesn't even bother tracking and you know how that goes. He isn't staying on plan but at least he is eating good healthy dinners and taking fruit and yogurt to work with him. What's a mother, oops wife to do?

  • Post Image oahuann (ann)

    2/9/2011 6:21 PM
    A girl can dream...This is almost my husband to a T. I make his morning coffee, pack his lunch (most days), fix his dinner (poor him i'm a vegetarian and he is not). He drinks his coffee, eats his lunch at 4PM because he finally remembered that I packed it, says he is not hungry for dinner (wonder why), and then makes himself some sort of desert after I go to bed. Now if he would only remember to clean up the evidence!

  • Post Image mommyofmaxandrome (erin)

    2/10/2011 11:01 AM
    I have to say, if it were up to my husband he would eat the same stuff. I have an apple as a snack, he has a half bag of peanuts. But this is why I do the cooking, at least at dinner. If he wants to eat the bacon and eggs and rice and spam for breakfast thats fine with me. Its his body. But at dinner, dinner is when I get to choose what we eat and it ALWAYS includes a vegetable and is usually under 10pts plus for everything.

  • Post Image justgina4u

    2/10/2011 12:38 AM
    I think if i still cooked the way i used to cook my husband would be 500 pounds. he has always been thin or average weight and can eat all day. For example, he likes two types of pie, hot or cold and its not if he will have a piece its if he want to eat the whole pie or half the pie. He eats whatever I give him at home thankfully, but I am definitely the forager of the food each weekend.

  • Post Image ljroshkind (lisa)

    2/11/2011 6:53 AM
    He wants you to know he is thinking about your lecture by letting you know he needs more clementines..Valentine Day is coming buy him a case.

  • Post Image megsbhs

    2/12/2011 8:37 AM
    My DH only liked REAL Mountain Dew, Sweet Tea, fried potatoes, red meat, corn, carrots, green beans & tomatoes--VERY limited. He's not overweight, no heart issues, but developed Type 2 Diabetes anyway. Since then he is beginning to expand his eating--Tea with Equal, Diet Dew, Whole Wheat Pasta, Brown Rice, sweet potatoes, a variety of peppers, more fruit...still no broccoli, cauliflower, only cabbage is in coleslaw. What would they do without us. Buy the clementines.

  • Post Image btmbbrown

    2/15/2011 3:36 PM
    My husband joined ww after he saw that I was having some success. He has a difficult time with controlling what he eats, so I began making his lunch and snacks for the day. This helps him to see that he can eat all day long and not be hungry, but stay within his points. Now when we go grocery shopping, he tries to find snacks and lunch foods that he can eat.

  • Post Image eyebuck (simera)

    2/10/2011 9:21 AM
    Buy the clementines. Then you know he has them and something good for him to eat. But I understand. If I didn't buy the fruit and other healthy foods its hard to tell what my DH would be eating.

  • Post Image jckkb374 (jeanne)

    2/10/2011 7:00 PM
    LOL...he's not buying them...but it was a good thought! And at least he's EATING them! (LOL)

  • Post Image songstress101

    2/10/2011 9:39 AM
    I have 2 things to say about clementines! 1. They vary widely, don't they? Lately I have been working through a great bag: like candy! 2. Try putting them in salads, or fruit salad: clems, grapes, apples and a little bit of mango sorbet (see blog post below). Oh, and keep packing them for him. OK, that was 3 things.

  • Post Image momof5inmi (beth)

    2/10/2011 3:11 PM
    Buy the clementines and add an apple or two. then add some more fruit each week...or try a veggie, too. It must be a male thing, as I have DH and 3 DS and they are all the same way! My DD love to try new foods.......and they both love fruits and veggies!

  • Post Image ffrygirl

    2/14/2011 12:32 PM
    too funny :) the diet police... if your partner is with you on this eating better lifestyle.. it makes things so much easier... last Friday, we went out after work for some beers (my friend and I had one lite beer each over a four hour time span)... anyways... when the fried food was ordered up and based around the table, we smiled at each other and just kept on passing it along.. fried mushrooms, cheese, loaded fries.... you get the picture

  • Post Image libbybell2

    2/15/2011 3:54 PM
    My points plus tracker didn't have any weekly points in it this week. I was wondering why and what can be done about it?

  • Post Image jlczech

    2/9/2011 5:13 PM
    Thank you for sharing the realities of working this WW program while living with non-WW peeps. Sometimes I think I am lucky to live alone and succeed in WW but how realistic is that? Real life involves real situations and real people then the decisions we make really come in to play. Thanks for sharing.

  • Post Image dietroadwarrior

    2/12/2011 11:58 AM
    More than once I have come home from work to find that DH has made tortellinis with scrapple for dinner. Uh... thanks, Honey! He's been better, though, since he started distance running. He'll listen to his coaches' nutritional advice, even if he ignores me telling him the same thing! Recent breakthrough: spinach, both raw and cooked. We're still working on broccoli.

  • Post Image tracey smith

    2/11/2011 10:02 AM
    Hey, if he will eat them...buy them. His email was his way of saying "Thanks for looking out for me". I do this for my hubby too...make him lunch sometimes and put nice little notes in there with some healthy snacks.

  • Post Image phoenixsmith

    2/10/2011 4:44 AM
    Buy the clementines. Two months from now plan to add a few baby carrots. :-)


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