Mommy, do you think I’m chubby?

Written by editors on 5/25/2011 11:01 AM | COMMENTS (10)

I was a chubby kid growing up. So when those words came out of my 7 year old’s mouth last night, I was immediately transported back in time to that dreadful period in my life, when I was a very insecure girl who was called “fatty four-eyes” by my classmates. And I wanted to cry.

But I composed myself instead and asked Leah why she asked me that. I asked if someone said something to her? And she said no – thankfully. That she thinks she’s chubby. Phew. I was relieved. Because I know I can help my own daughter feel better about herself – but it’s very difficult to stop the teasing from others.

I reiterated to Leah, as I always do, that it does not matter what our bodies look like. What does matter is how healthy our bodies are and how we take care of them. I then gave Leah my usual speech about the importance of eating lots of fruits and vegetables, choosing whole grains, eating slowly, being active, washing our hands before we eat, etc. General guidelines for overall health.

Yeah, yeah, okay, Mom, she said. And that settled our conversation. Leah moved on, happily.

But the matter at hand is far from over. Unfortunately, Leah is overweight. She has been that way since she was born. But she gets less overweight every year and is definitely – slowly – creating life-long healthy habits.

Fortunately, Leah has more self-confidence that I ever did/do. And she thinks she’s fabulous. I’d even go as far as to say she thinks she’s a “hot tamale.” Leah struts around the house like a model on a catwalk – sometimes dressed, sometimes not - posing in all her glory.

I can only hope she continues to maintain her level of self-confidence. Because I am pretty sure, one day, she will get teased for her body shape. And I dread having to lift her up from that horrible place of insecurity.

Leslie Fink, MS, RD

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  • Post Image bklynborn

    6/1/2011 8:27 AM
    You're an awesome mom! Your positive attitude will help your daughter has she grows into her body. The healthy eating habits that she is developing will stay with her throughout her long life.

  • Post Image jodiva26 (jodi)

    5/26/2011 8:54 AM
    Sounds like you have an amazing little girl! You are doing a great thing by encouraging her to be healthy! A big prayer of mine is for my daughter to have more confidence than I did growing up.

  • Post Image patb119

    5/25/2011 1:41 PM
    It's great to hear that she's less overweight every year and that you're teaching her healthy habits

  • Post Image lorraine095

    6/1/2011 11:59 PM
    I have a 7 year old grandson who is also overweight and he does get teased by one boy in his class. I'm trying to help him with his food. he wants to eat all the time.

  • Post Image sidedish3 (ashley)

    5/25/2011 1:11 PM
    Great post. I am so scared to have kids in school someday. Kids are so mean. Leah is darling and it sounds like you have her learning healthy habits. Thanks for sharing.

  • Post Image parentye

    5/26/2011 10:58 AM
    your little girl is very bless to have a mom like you. beautiful child

  • Post Image losingforme11

    6/15/2011 4:25 PM
    I think this is awesome! I love that she struts around and is confident..shows you are a good mom and she is an awesome kid!

  • Post Image cmquintero

    5/25/2011 2:19 PM
    I remember being that kid in school. It's so wonderful that she has a mother who understands and who is committed to a healthy lifestyle. Cudos to you!

  • Post Image inmomshonor

    6/8/2011 10:17 PM
    My son was overweight from K all through school until high school. He grew several inches, on his own gave up sodas and started exercising. Now he is 6'2" and about 175 lbs.!

  • Post Image doirjr (jessica)

    5/25/2011 2:06 PM
    Congrats on raising a child that is beautiful on the inside & outside! My son is 7 and although he doesn't have weight issues, this is certainly a time in their lives when insecurities start creeping in. Keep encouraging her to be her FABULOUS self!!!


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